Q: When has your voice been dismissed?
A: Let me count the ways! Right?
Q: And, do you do that to yourself because it’s been done to you?
A: It’s inevitable, especially when this happens in childhood.
For women, one of the primary forms of resisting our own healing, empowerment and full self-expression is to trivialize our experience.
Internalized messages such as these are forms of trivialization:
Don’t be ridiculous.
Don’t cry.
Don’t be stupid.
You’re fine.
It’s not that big of a deal.
You’re overreacting.
Do any of these sound familiar to you? Have you heard these words from others and do they then play out in your own head?
When we minimize our experience and truth, we also minimize the possibility of our authentic expression and the formation of our purpose in the world. Yes, you do have a purpose, and that purpose evolves as you grow year by year. And when you don’t manifest your purpose, the world loses. And so do you.
The patterns of trivialization are ingrained in our psyche and have been for a long time. They are part of what is called the female pain-body. It’s the way we have been conditioned to dumb down, to disappear. And the scary part is that many times we don’t see that we are doing that.
In a mentorship session last week, I reflected back to my client:
“What you just said is really powerful!”
She said, “Really?”
Moments like this bring me joy because I get to reflect a woman’s greatness back to her. And she ‘gets it’!
This is just one of the many experiences that happens in the Find Your Voice Mentorship.
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